It’s hard to know when to let go especially when it’s someone you love and someone you want to know that you care and will always be there for them. There does come a point when your good nature will be tested.. what will you do?
We will have to stand up to someone in our lives whom we love. Just because we love them, doesn’t mean we should let them take advantage of us. First of all ,if they really do csre about you like they say, they will not take advantage of you . They won’t treat you as an option. If someone likes you , you will know.. just like how you know when someone doesn’t like you. It’s not hard to figure out, you just know and don’t have to play the guessing games. If you have to play guessing games, it’s not off to a good start either.
We allow bad behaviour to go on for so long from people we love. We feel if we call them out on it, they won’t like us anymore or they won’t want to be apart of our lives. Why would we even want someone like that to be apart of our lives anyway ? Do we hope one day they will change if we show them “enough love?” First of all, if you have to prove yourself continuously, that’s a red flag. It should be a mutual thing with loved ones .
There comes a point when you must put an end to the toxic behavior . You may not be sure exactly when to draw the line. You put it off and say it wasn’t that serious or make an excuse. Each time you let toxic behavior slide, it will continue and simply because you keep allowing it to. It’s not our fault people act the way they do, but it is our fault if we keep allowing this behavior to happen to us. We have the power to choose when we no longer want to put up with this anymore. Then of course we fall b sck into the what if’s… well realisticly , the what if’s are not happening. You need to be present and aware of the current moment you’re in. We’re talking about right now and the current toxic behavior.
Think if this was anyone else that was acting this way towards you. Would you tolerate it? Why or why Not? If someone was telling you about someone they know that is like this, what would be your advice for them? Now, why can’t you put this towards yourself and follow your own advice ? We hope it will be different next time , but what steps are we taking to make it different next time? Are we only hoping things will change ?
Just because you love someone, doesn’t mean your feelings don’t matter. You have a right to feel the way you do. It doesn’t make it right for someone to hurt you over and over and you allow it because you love them. You may feel you can’t give up on this soul, but you can only do so much before you lose yourself in the process . It happens slowly where you won’t even realize you’re different and not in a good way.
Bottom line, if someone is treating you wrong, it’s teaching you how to stand up for yourself . Once you stand up to the one you love most, you know you can face and stand up to anyone. You won’t tolerate any bs from anyone ! It’s an important lesson and you shouldn’t feel bad because point blank if someone does genuinely like you, care for you , YOU WILL KNOW. you won’t have to guess…yoh won’t have to Google search why they’re acting the way they are. The way they’re acting is the answer right in front of you! We just don’t want to see it or accept it . We make excuses and live the illusion. When someone likes you, they will make time for you , not excuses. You won’t have to be the only one working for it to work out. It must be mutual. One can’t be doing all the work.
You need to respect yourself and treat yourself with love. If you’re allowing someone to make you feel bad, you’re hurting yourself. You don’t deserve to be treated like nothing. You’re not an option. You should not tolerate anything less than you deserve. No one deserves to be treated badly. You have the power to put an end to it. You can’t stop their behavior , but you can stop yourself from allowing it.